SEX - Let's Talk

SEX!! 

Gunjan Bharadwaj | 18th July 2021

...SEX, the most passionate experience which is capable of giving the divinest pleasures that one can think of. Our Ancient era was way more liberal, where women had an equal say in what they enjoyed and wanted to share in bed, Sex was considered as a divine ritual. This was firmly believed that Love is in the true of nature of human and sex is a form of expression. We all know about the Kama Sutra. Indians were one of the first civilizations to have written text, educating and informing people of the richness of sexual pleasure.


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Now fast-forward to 21st century wherein sex is banished from talks, it is been discouraged to be in our curriculum. Even today being in my 30's I can talk—and have talked—about nearly everything with my parents. But when it comes to sex, we revert to our prepubescent selves, giggling at every anatomical term. Or, we make jokes about it to mask our discomfort. Call it immature, or call it the product of an education that taught us little to nothing about the mechanics of sex. I often overheard my parents and grandparents talking about how Cinema is playing a role in promoting sex weirdly and absurdly. To some extent, I agree with them when it comes to toddlers or even early teenagers this is too much information about SEX which is not been aptly introduced to them. 


But....but how will they learn about sex if we as parents do not encourage these curious sex talks with them. Whenever they ask how babies are made, we opt to feed them with fancy stories or navigate them to some other point. We left no options for them and thus they quell all their curiosities by "OTT", wherein a man is thrusting a woman with a naked back and this woman has nothing to do apart from making appealing voices. We call it a liberal era, literally? I remember when I saw this song "Tip Tip Barsa Pani" in front of my father though he managed to change the song as soon as he noticed me gazing at the act, he shouted pretty well and then it was from eyes "tip tip barsa pani", horrifying believe me, I was like this is something very wrong that these guys were doing in rain, so only he has changed the channel. For me I was a "Tathastu" kid, believe me this is an honest confession I still feel the same because denial is quite strong here.


So if you do not want your kid to hop from one porn site to another aimlessly and unknowingly that these sites are for adults as it has grown-up content, then do talk to your kids as early as often!! 


How? When? Why?


So this "why" I have already answered above, Talking with your kids about sex may not be easy, but it’s important — and it's never too early to start. Your support can help them make healthy choices as they grow up.

It may be hard to know where to start, especially if your parents didn’t talk to you about sex when you were growing up.

There is more risk with not telling them enough than telling them too much.



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By the age of 2, kids start noticing their surroundings. They start touching and exploring their body parts, incorporate the proper names for genitals into everyday activities like bath time, try to be honest, and explain things biologically. Like we have names for every body part, for example, ankle, knees, head just like that vagina, penis, nipples are our body parts too. Kids need these words to communicate health issues or injuries. 

Nadine Thornhill a sex - educator recommends avoiding connecting sexual biology to gender. For example, drop the idea that all boys have penises and all girls have vaginas. Instead say, “People with penises” or “People with vaginas.” Thornhill explains that by watching your language now, you set the groundwork for easier conversations about gender roles and identities later. 


Ultimately, when it comes to kids, you want to empower your child to be able to evaluate risks and make good decisions. “Helping kids understand that they have a gut, an inner voice, and they can and should listen to it, is a big part of what sex education is about,”




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